How ready are you for change?

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Do you believe in your life vision enough to “go for it”, to take up that vision with both hands? All creative ventures, including the forging of our ideal life, begin a little at a time, where an idea may lead to another, snowballing and gaining momentum. But the creation of our vision has to start somewhere – we need to move beyond the sanctuary of our proverbial caves, the place where we may be safe and warm but yet stagnant. Our caves might be the debilitating self-doubts and behaviors that, while creating an illusion of Continue reading

Got self-esteem?

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Or, to paraphrase Sally Field: “I like me! Right now, I like me!”

Anyone who reads my blog posts, or sits in on my webinars, consistently hears me say: Know Thyself … and … Be Your True Self (<– 5 Essential Principles for Dating Bliss). The underlying thread here is that knowing yourself leads to self-acceptance, and when you accept yourself, you can be true to yourself, and not sacrifice yourself on the altar of desperation and self-loathing. (How’s that for drama?) You’ll make much better choices if you have healthy self-regard. This seems to be a “DUH!” statement but boy oh boy, our world is chock full of people who berate themselves, who are unaware of their sabotaging beliefs, and thus deny themselves their full potential. In other words, This Is A Biggie. There is no true success Continue reading

How susceptible are you to Negging?

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Or, the perils of low self-esteem and dating.

To love thyself is the beginningFound some research the other day, courtesy of Psychology Today, about the effects insults have on attracting partners – as illustrated via a technique known as “negging”* in the Pick Up artist world. Apparently, lowering someone’s self-esteem does indeed make him or her more compliant and more inclined to accept romantic advances. Take a look at the study results: Continue reading

Ask The Coach pt 3: How to be approachable

Ask The Coach pt 3: How to be approachable

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What’s a single woman to do?

You want to remain open and be approachable yet you can’t help but put walls up.

I had a client, I’ll dub Mary out of respect for privacy, reach out to me to ask that question. “I want to be in a relationship, but every time a guy talks to me, no matter what he says, I get defensive.”

Man, can I relate. I remember there was a period where I wanted to fling daggers at any guy who tried to “chat me up”. Not exactly the right kind of attitude for me to adopt, given the fact that I wanted to find a romantic partner.

With this in mind, we set about coaching her through this feeling. After exploring with her for a while, it became apparent that she had trouble trusting, and was Continue reading

Why Can’t You Be Nicer?

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It’s time for …  Ask the Coach.


Oh, thank you – you’re too kind – please, no applause, just throw money.

I received an email the other day that essentially asked: “Why can’t women be more approachable? And can you create programs that teach them how to be?” I then Continue reading

Got Confidence? What Kickstarter’s Recent Scandal Teaches Us

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Good riddance to bad pick up techniques.

I’ve been reading about the kerfuffle that Kickstarter provoked by inadvertently allowing a misogynist to fundraise for a book (under the guise of pick up artistry) that instructs men to forcefully touch and otherwise pressure women into having sex. At first I was enraged – there is nothing that gets me more riled than violence (of any kind) against women … and then I was grieved to read that this project exceeded its fundraising goal by a huge percent. Ultimately it got me thinking about a sticky subject: pick up artists. Continue reading

Dating Gold Diggers: the hidden cost

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…or, Regrets: The heavy cost of the time we waste

I opened my doors up to an Ask the Coach program, and have had a few questions float into my Inbox, 99% of which focus on ‘why can’t the members of the opposite sex do XYZ’. I will go through each one and address what really pops out at me, but I thought I would start with this non-question question that actually is a complaint (which came to me anonymously and has been slightly edited for grammar and brevity).

I've been a miner for a heart of gold.

I’ve been a miner for a heart of gold.

I love complaints – they have hidden treasures and gifts, like a buried pirate chest filled with gold coins (which can only be seen if you aren’t a Dating Zombie). Continue reading

Empowered Dating: Know Thyself – A Visual Reference

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In my webinar, 5 Essential Principles for Blissful Dating Success, I talk a lot about how important it is to spend the time upfront, before launching into any dating strategies, in getting to who you are and what you enjoy in life. Knowing yourself and liking yourself are directly related to success in relationships. You cannot truly love and accept another if you cannot love and accept yourself. The following reinforces Continue reading

Empowered Dating Step #2 – Know (and like) Thyself

Empowered Dating Step #2 – Know (and like) Thyself

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Or, how to make much, much better choices and decisions that increase your odds for success

I’ve mentioned this before: if you want to enjoy the dating process and not suffer through it, a foundational ground rule is to know your requirements.

Your requirements are what you want to experience in a relationship – not so much about the attributes your date “must have.” Developing a list of attributes or qualities that you must see in another person is fruitless and Continue reading

My Life Purpose and Dating

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How the exploration of my mission will help your relationship experiences

In my last post, I talked about our life purposes and how powerful we are when we are living in alignment with them. Here I thought I would talk about my own life purpose and how it directly influences my approach to creating programming that supports and improves your dating experiences (and soon, your financial serenity). Continue reading