Is your current relationship the right one for you?

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From The Chooser files, an assessment

The other night I hosted a webinar on Being the Chooser – a new paradigm for attracting the extraordinary.

(FYI: I also use the words Creator and Architect interchangeably for the word Chooser – it all refers to the same thing: taking the initiative to create what you want, taking full responsibility for your outcomes and making choices mindful of their long-term consequences…. In other words, think about what you want for yourself in your life. A fulfilling relationship? Success in your career? Financial serenity? Whatever your aims are, to get what you want, you must be the Chooser.)

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10 Commandments of Attracting Extraordinary Relationships

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Just say no to "meh"

Just say no to “meh”

Interested in attracting the extraordinary? Not satisfied with “meh” (or worse, destructive) relationships? Congratulations – and welcome to Empowered Dating & Relationships, a new paradigm. I do not believe – not for one second – that we need to settle for anything less than the very best in our lives. I think that men and women alike can come together from this space of empowerment and vitality and learn to co-create relationships that are uplifting, exciting and Continue reading

Age is just a number

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Maybe the youngsters are right.

As a dating and relationship coach is who is also single, I’m walking my talk – and using online dating services to meet people since I live in a non-bustling area along the Jersey coastline. Even though my search criteria states that I’m looking for a relationship with someone between a certain age range, I consistently get email queries from young men who are way, way below that range. Many of them like to use the line: Age is just a number. And maybe they’re right (to a certain extent – Continue reading

What are your top 6 requirements in a relationship?

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They might not be what you think.

Couple in fieldMany relationships fail because, despite the initial intense chemistry and attraction, the couple is just not compatible. As they get to know each other more intimately, they realize they have different values, life goals, and relationship criteria. For partners to be compatible, they MUST BOTH have similar values and goals and have their relationship criteria met.

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And bad mistakes, I’ve made a few …

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Dating & Relationship Lessons I’ve learned along the way

I’m a firm believer in walking my talk so I thought I would share with you some insight, and key learnings, that I’ve uncovered as a result of my many years of making dating and relationship mistakes, as well as a result of going through my relationship coaching certification training. I’m sharing this with you because, in honesty, what I’ve learned has completely radicalized my approach to dating and relationships. I’m pretty darned sure that this will help you, too. Continue reading

Does the Thought of Speed Dating Fill You with Anxiety, Panic, Confusion?

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New Tips to Prepare You for Fun and Enjoyment Instead

speed dating coupleI’m creating a Speed Dating event (not your run of the mill Speed Dating event, mind you), with my friend, Cassie, of Cassie’s Calendar and the key organizer of the Single and Looking in NJ meet up group and I have been thinking about the feedback I’ve been getting from friends and clients about the viability of such events.

In my heart of hearts, I believe in the power of speed dating events. We are all active professionals, busy with our kick-a$$ careers and our families, sometimes with Continue reading

Zen Dating for the Empowered Culture

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values--once you know your values, life is easy copyIf you’ve taken my webinars, you’ve heard me talk about how important it is to identify your top 5 to 10 values – what you feel is of paramount importance to you. These values form the basis of your relationship requirements and help guide you in terms of where you look for a committed relationship and what you want to experience in one. Your values also give you insight as to knowing when to fold ’em and walk away.

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Dating Gold Digging Women? What it says about your values (part 2)

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In my last post, I started to address a rich question (in truth: a complaint) that I received via my “Ask the Coach” program. This particular entry was so rich that I wanted to break it down – my first response addressed the issue of honoring our time, since spending 7 months with someone who doesn’t reflect one of our core values is … well … kind of a waste of time.  Here’s the question/complaint again, to refresh our memories: Continue reading

Dating Gold Diggers: the hidden cost

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…or, Regrets: The heavy cost of the time we waste

I opened my doors up to an Ask the Coach program, and have had a few questions float into my Inbox, 99% of which focus on ‘why can’t the members of the opposite sex do XYZ’. I will go through each one and address what really pops out at me, but I thought I would start with this non-question question that actually is a complaint (which came to me anonymously and has been slightly edited for grammar and brevity).

I've been a miner for a heart of gold.

I’ve been a miner for a heart of gold.

I love complaints – they have hidden treasures and gifts, like a buried pirate chest filled with gold coins (which can only be seen if you aren’t a Dating Zombie). Continue reading

Empowered Dating Step #1: Date with Your Life Purpose in Mind

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What do you want in life? What is the greater purpose of your life? What is your life’s legacy?

In my “5 Essential Principles for Blissfully Successful Dating” webinar that I held last week, I talk about how important it is to identify your top non-negotiable Continue reading