How susceptible are you to Negging?

Dating Dating Skills Relationships Self Esteem Solutions Uncategorized

Or, the perils of low self-esteem and dating.

To love thyself is the beginningFound some research the other day, courtesy of Psychology Today, about the effects insults have on attracting partners – as illustrated via a technique known as “negging”* in the Pick Up artist world. Apparently, lowering someone’s self-esteem does indeed make him or her more compliant and more inclined to accept romantic advances. Take a look at the study results: Continue reading

Why Can’t You Be Nicer?

Ask the Coach Dating Dating Skills Relationships Uncategorized

It’s time for …  Ask the Coach.


Oh, thank you – you’re too kind – please, no applause, just throw money.

I received an email the other day that essentially asked: “Why can’t women be more approachable? And can you create programs that teach them how to be?” I then Continue reading

Got Confidence? What Kickstarter’s Recent Scandal Teaches Us

Courage Dating Self Esteem Self-Acceptance

Good riddance to bad pick up techniques.

I’ve been reading about the kerfuffle that Kickstarter provoked by inadvertently allowing a misogynist to fundraise for a book (under the guise of pick up artistry) that instructs men to forcefully touch and otherwise pressure women into having sex. At first I was enraged – there is nothing that gets me more riled than violence (of any kind) against women … and then I was grieved to read that this project exceeded its fundraising goal by a huge percent. Ultimately it got me thinking about a sticky subject: pick up artists. Continue reading