What are men looking for in a relationship?

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I’ve lately been talking with some women who are in a whirl over “how to understand men.” Some of them don verbal grenade launchers when they start talking about guys, while others wring their hands, urgently and anxiously trying to figure out the Masculine Mysteries.

When I’m coaching people, I generally redirect my clients’ attention back to themselves because I find that fulfillment is not about changing other people’s behaviors to suit us, or trying to figure out what motivates others. In my experience, fulfillment is about discovering Continue reading

Got self-esteem?

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Or, to paraphrase Sally Field: “I like me! Right now, I like me!”

Anyone who reads my blog posts, or sits in on my webinars, consistently hears me say: Know Thyself … and … Be Your True Self (<– 5 Essential Principles for Dating Bliss). The underlying thread here is that knowing yourself leads to self-acceptance, and when you accept yourself, you can be true to yourself, and not sacrifice yourself on the altar of desperation and self-loathing. (How’s that for drama?) You’ll make much better choices if you have healthy self-regard. This seems to be a “DUH!” statement but boy oh boy, our world is chock full of people who berate themselves, who are unaware of their sabotaging beliefs, and thus deny themselves their full potential. In other words, This Is A Biggie. There is no true success Continue reading

Positive Mindset Pt. 4: Turn that Frown Upside Down

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Or, Polly Anna has just left the building.

In their book, How We Choose to Be Happy, Rick Foster and Greg Hicks point out that truly happy people deal with their sorrows by choosing to feel their feelings and somehow finding meaning in the situation. In essence, we can use our circumstances Continue reading

Positive Mindset Pt. 3: The False Allure of Relentless Positivity

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 Or, avoid becoming a Stepford Wife

In this post, I want to re-emphasize how important it is to “look on the bright side of life” while at the same time diverging from the popular “adopt a positive attitude” approach that has permeated today’s zeitgeist. As someone who practices Coaching for Transformation, I want to focus on alchemical change – which means that to get to the good stuff, we move through the crappy stuff so you can be FREE. The only way out is through. Continue reading

Kick Your Life into High Gear

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Four transformative “things to do” so you can have better relationships, more money, a successful career.

As a culture, we’re hooked into the fallacy of getting instant results. This applies to every aspect of our lives – from our careers, to our health, to dating and relationships. We’re always looking for the formula to success: put the quarter into the slot, and Continue reading

Dating Gold Diggers: the hidden cost

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…or, Regrets: The heavy cost of the time we waste

I opened my doors up to an Ask the Coach program, and have had a few questions float into my Inbox, 99% of which focus on ‘why can’t the members of the opposite sex do XYZ’. I will go through each one and address what really pops out at me, but I thought I would start with this non-question question that actually is a complaint (which came to me anonymously and has been slightly edited for grammar and brevity).

I've been a miner for a heart of gold.

I’ve been a miner for a heart of gold.

I love complaints – they have hidden treasures and gifts, like a buried pirate chest filled with gold coins (which can only be seen if you aren’t a Dating Zombie). Continue reading

Prosperous Dating: A tip …

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Be More Interesting…

I’ve been working with several “singles” groups to help them date smarter and with more joy since when we date with “prosperity thinking”, our relationships thrive and flourish too.

Become interesting in 10 easy steps...

Become interesting in 10 easy steps…

One of the basic principles of dating success is to express who you are with confidence — which also means liking and accepting yourself. Continue reading

Yea, though I Walk through the Valley of the Shadow of … Dreams

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((This post originally appeared on my former blog in January 2012. I thought it was worth re-posting since winter always represents, for me, work done in solitude and how difficult that can be.))

Last week I wrote about how “going within” both literally and figuratively to a place of solitude triggered deep residing fears. Indeed my whole physical body was responding – my heart was pounding in my chest like I was running for my life and I was constantly short of breath. No amount of deep breathing exercises was helping. Continue reading