How to augment your coaching experience via books

My Become Successfully Single & Relationship Ready coaching programs are pretty thorough and transformative, even if I say so myself. Yet I realize that some people aren’t ready for the kind of results that my programs provide.

So if you want to start making changes in your life, self-help books are certainly a great way to help introduce new concepts and ideas. A caveat though — the inspirations self-help books provide can be fleeting and momentary if the wisdom they contain is not grounded by being put into action over time, by practice, experience, discussion, and conscious integration.

Given the fact that you have landed on my web site, chances are you’re interested in attracting and keeping extraordinary relationships and experiencing abundance in all aspects of your life. With that in mind, I’ve given some thought about the common road-blocks that prevent people from experiencing this goal and then reviewed my library for books that address those blocks. Here, then, are some of my reading recommendations.

Love YourselfLove Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It

By Kamal Ravikant

Do you love yourself? Can you look at yourself in the mirror and genuinely say “I love myself”? Or does a little voice pipe up to tell you: “As if. You don’t love yourself. Not truly. You’re not worthy of love. Who are you to love yourself?” Now consider, What would you be doing with your life right now if you were madly, truly, deeply in love with yourself? Just sit quietly for a moment with the question. Close your eyes and really think about it. When you are ready to develop the kind of self-appreciation that will allow you to achieve everything your heart desires — or even if you aren’t ready — read this book. Click here to order.

Taming Your TemperTaming Your Temper : A Workbook for Individuals, Couples, and Groups

by Nathaniel David Smith, LPC

Are You Getting Burned By Your Own Temper? Is your out-of-control anger hurting your health, destroying your relationships, and ambushing your career? If so, this book is a must. While most people think that anger itself is “bad” or wrong, this book stresses that anger is normal. It’s only when your feelings turn into destructive behavior that anger becomes an issue. Stop being at the mercy of those feelings. If you work through the 36 concrete strategies and exercises inside these pages, you can learn to act in healthier ways, to cut down on aggression, to live calmly and experience more joy in your relationships. Click here to order.

Self-Esteem WorkbookSelf-Esteem Workbook

by Glenn R. Schiraldi, Ph.D

Low self-esteem is probably the number one obstacle to leading a fulfilling life. This classic is still the most comprehensive guide on the subject and the only book that offers proven techniques for talking back to your self-critical voice.  Learn to handle your mistakes and respond well to criticism; Foster compassion for yourself and others; Set up and achieve goals that will enrich your life; Use visualization for self-acceptance. Click here to order.

Receiving LoveReceiving Love: Transform Your Relationship by Letting Yourself Be Loved

By Harville Hendrix, PhD and Helen La Kelly Hunt, PhD

Many men and women know how to give love, but many more undermine their relationships by never having learned how to accept it. We don’t always realize the ways in which we reject appreciation and affection, help and guidance from our romantic partners. And, until we are able to understand the meaning behind our behavior, our relationships stand to suffer. Ask yourself:

  • Are you reluctant to tell your partner what you really want or need?
  • When you do get what you’ve asked for, do you still feel dissatisfied?
  • Is it difficult for you to accept kind gestures, gifts, or compliments from your partner?

If you answered Yes to any of these, this book is for you. You will learn how to break the shackles of self-rejection and embrace real intimacy. Click here to order.

The Four AgreementsThe Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book)

By don Miguel Ruiz

In The Four Agreements, don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, The Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love. Click here to order.


The Art of PowerThe Art of Power

By Thich Nhat Hahn

Turning our conventional understanding of power on its head, world-renowned Zen master, spiritual leader, and national bestselling author Thich Nhat Hanh reveals how true power comes from within. What we seek, we already have. Whether we want it or not, power remains one of the central issues in all of our lives. Every day, each of us exercises power in many ways, and our every act subtly affects the world we live in. This struggle for control and authority permeates every aspect of our private and public lives, preventing us from attaining true happiness. The me-first mentality in our culture seeps unnoticed into our decisions and choices. Our bottom-line approach to getting ahead may be most visible in the business world, but the stress, fear, and anxiety it causes are being felt by people in all walks of life. Click here to order.

Emotional IntimacyEmotional Intimacy: A Comprehensive Guide for Connecting with the Power of Your Emotions

By Robert Augustus Masters, PhD

Emotions link our feelings, thoughts, and conditioning at multiple levels, but they may remain a largely untapped source of strength, freedom, and connection. The capacity to be intimate with all our emotions is essential for creating fulfilling relationships and living with awareness, love, and integrity. With Emotional Intimacy, you will explore: How to deepen emotional literacy and become intimate with all your emotions; The nature of emotional disconnection and what to do about it; Illuminating, resolving, and healing old emotional wounds; Gender differences in emotional intimacy and expression; Steps for bringing greater emotional intimacy and depth into your relationships; In-depth guidance for those facing depression, anxiety, and shame; Why “blowing off steam” may make us feel worse; The difference between anger and aggression, shame and guilt, jealousy and envy. Click here to order.

Buddha's BrainBuddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom

by Rick Hanson and Daniel J. Siegel

Buddha’s Brain joins the forces of modern neuroscience with ancient contemplative teachings to show readers how they can work toward greater emotional well-being, healthier relationships, more effective actions, and deepened religious and spiritual understanding. Click here to order.

Daring GreatlyDaring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

By Brene Brown, PhD

Every day we experience the uncertainty, risks, and emotional exposure that define what it means to be vulnerable, or to dare greatly. Whether the arena is a new relationship, an important meeting, our creative process, or a difficult family conversation, we must find the courage to walk into vulnerability and engage with our whole hearts. In Daring Greatly, Dr. Brown challenges everything we think we know about vulnerability. Based on twelve years of research, she argues that vulnerability is not weakness, but rather our clearest path to courage, engagement, and meaningful connection. Click here to order.

How We Choose to be HappyHow We Choose to Be Happy: The 9 Choices of Extremely Happy People

By Rick Foster and Greg Hicks

Featuring new research and the most current information on the science of happiness, this book presents an outline of the nine choices happy people consistently make. Also included are tools for self-assessment to allow readers to measure happiness-and to find out what might be holding them back from having more of it. Insightful, intimate, and inspiring, How We Choose to Be Happy lets readers learn by example, and take substantial steps toward joining the ranks of the extremely happy. Click here to order.

Conscious LovingConscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment

By Gay Hendricks, PhD and Kathlyn Hendricks

Here is a powerful new program that can clear away the unconscious agreements patterns that undermine even your best intentions. Therapists Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks have developed precise strategies to help you create a vital partnership and enhance the energy, creativity, and happiness of each person. You will learn how to: Let go of power struggles and need for control; Balance needs for closeness and separateness; Increase intimacy by telling the “microscopic truth”; Communicate in a positive way that stops arguments; Make agreements you can keep; Allow more pleasure into your life. Click here to order.

Want to read these books and integrate their wisdom with me, your Empowered Single coach, to deepen your experiences and invite further insight? Let’s talk! Email me here.

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