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Your Epic Life: What’s your WHY?
In this post, we’re going to explore how to give yourself leverage in terms of achieving your dreams – meaning, finding a compelling and emotional reason why you want to do what you want to do. When I coach my clients, one of the first few questions I ask them, when they state what they want to achieve, is “What’s important to you about that? What do you care about here?” Knowing your why can often mean the difference between achieving the goal or not, since a compelling and powerful why usually springs from a very deep need and is often influenced by our values.
This kind of emotional leverage can come from one of two places. You can focus on the wonderful things you’ll experience if you complete your goal – i.e., happiness, personal freedom, finding love. Or you can focus on the awful things that might happen if you don’t – i.e., loneliness, a heart attack, or the death of a loved one. Positive or negative, discover what will make it an absolute must to accomplish your goal. One success guru I follow likens leverage with the father who couldn’t quit smoking until his 6 year old daughter walked into his home office one morning and said daddy, “I don’t want you to die before I’m 10.” He never smoked again. Now that’s emotional leverage.
What massive reason can you find for making your goal and must? It could be fitting into your wedding dress or being sure you’re alive to teach your grandson math. It’s your call. Just be sure there is a need your emotional reason behind it.
List one why for each goal.
Creating baby steps
Thinking of a long term goal as a single item to accomplish can be massively overwhelming. Yet every goal has all kinds of 5 minutes or 1 hour task leading up to it.
In this step, we’re going to take each core goal and divided into 3 to 5 minor steps. This is called chunking down. Chunking is a way of breaking down larger goals into more realistically achievable steps. The process helps you to understand all the smaller tasks that are involved in achieving a bigger aim, and create a timeline to get them done. By creating a series of realistic mini goals along the way, you can also feel a constant and building sense of achievement, spurring you on to work even harder.
From there we will create 3 to 5 baby steps for each minor step. You may need more or fewer steps, depending on the size of your goal. Feel it out.
So… how excited are you getting, now that you’ve come this far to clearly and definitively articulate what you want to achieve, why it’s important to you, and then to start breaking it all down into small steps? We are nearly done with this exercise … so stay tuned for Steps 8, 9 and 10.