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How to develop self-empowerment
Self-empowerment for happier relationships
You may not realize this but your relationships are a reflection of your true personality and character. They correspond to your inner attitudes, beliefs and feelings about yourself. Relationships don’t necessarily reflect the person you want to be or pretend to be – they reflect back to you the person you really are at this moment. The people you choose to spend time with are a reflection of the person you really are inside.
So to co-create happy, healthy partnerships as well as lead a kick-a$$ life, you will need to take steps to become empowered, which we’ve previously defined as the process of becoming powerful.
Here are some starting points to think about, gleaned from the work of Abraham Maslow, a famed American psychologist who specialized in self-actualization. Self-actualization is defined as “the desire for self-fulfillment, namely the tendency for [the individual] to become actualized in what he is potentially.”
Experience life fully and vividly. The process of empowerment begins when we start to become completely immersed in our experiences – living fully, vividly and selflessly.
Be honest in your choices. Life is a series of choices. If you’re truthful with yourself as you make your choices, then you’re on the way to being empowered.
Be aware of your uniqueness. Realize that you are unique and begin to learn how to express yourself and your feelings truthfully, rather than reflect what you believe others want you to do or say.
Act with integrity. You always have a choice in whatever situation you face so act in a way that is honest and true to your nature. As you take responsibility for your own actions, you will move toward empowerment.
Be courageous. Learn to expand your horizons and let go of the familiar. Learn to not be deterred by fear and adversity. Learn to follow your heart and stand up for what is right. Learn to face adversity with dignity.
Focus on continual self-development. Self-empowerment is not an end-state, rather it is a process.
Let go of your ego defenses. Learning to let go of troublesome defense mechanisms that you may use to protect yourself is a necessary part of this process. For example, if you have a tendency to blame your partner for your frustrations or to become angry when things don’t go your way, learn to react in a constructive manner.
Develop trust. This can be a difficult and lengthy process but without it, empowerment and happiness is not possible. To develop trust, aim to:
- Be Open: In the sharing of information, ideas and thoughts. When appropriate also share emotions, feelings and reactions.
- Share and Co-operate: Share resources and knowledge with others to help them to achieve their goals.
- Be Trustworthy: When other people place their trust in you, do your best to provide positive outcomes.
- Be Accepting: Hold the values and views of others in high regard.
- Be Supportive: Support others when necessary while also recognizing their strengths.
Learn to understand your strengths and limits. Identifying these will enable you to build on your strengths. If you face problems that are truly beyond your capabilities, seek help. Empowered people know their own limits and have no problems with asking for help or guidance.
Develop confidence. Confidence acts as one of the greatest motivators or most powerful limitations to anyone trying to change their behavior and become more empowered. Most people only undertake tasks that they feel capable of doing and it takes great effort to overcome a lack of confidence. Self-empowerment involves people constantly challenging their own beliefs and what they are capable of undertaking.
… I know all of this sounds simple at first glance yet the real magic exists in the HOW to get there, which is what my coaching programs give you. What’s more, as you move forward toward self-fulfillment via my coaching programs, you’ll learn how to self-manage and course correct when faced with challenges that threaten to derail you.
To learn more about how you can liberate yourself and become an Empowered Single, please email me to schedule a no-cost 45 minute breakthrough session. (If you qualify). Email me by clicking HERE.