Create a Happy Relationship – the 3-legged stool

Create a Happy Relationship – the 3-legged stool

One of the most common statements I hear many singles say is: If I were in a relationship, then I’d be happy.  That is cart-before-the-horse thinking. And here’s why I say that:

In my eyes, all relationships are like a 3-legged stool:

You and all that you bring to the experience operate as one of the legs.

The second leg is the other person.

The third leg is the relationship itself – the very act of creating a partnership creates a new entity which we call “relationship”. A relationship is as much outside of each of you as it is within, or part of, each of you. Together you and your partner/friend/relative/co-worker define and co-create it.

As you regard your co-created relationship as this 3-legged stool, you’ll see that for the stool to be sturdy, each leg needs to be sturdy. If you’re wobbly, the whole thing is going to be wobbly. Being in a relationship will not cause you to be strong. If anything, the relationship is going to test you. There’s really no getting around it.

So a successful stool or a happy relationship is best supported by people who realize that both parties need to contribute equally.

“How?” you ask?

Here then is your blueprint to create a happy relationship:

  • Increase your level of self-awareness, awareness of your partner and awareness of the relationship itself
  • Prioritize the relationship in attitude, behavior and action
  • Develop and hone a shared vision of your ideal relationship
  • Improve your level of proficiency with core relationship competencies

Ready to craft a stool worthy of the Metropolitan Museum of Art? Consider my programs the tools you need to help you build it. Enroll now!

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