Ask the Coach: Where are all the spiritual guys?

Ask the Coach: Where are all the spiritual guys?

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Dear Coach Linda,
I’ve been doing personal and spiritual growth work for really long time. I am passionate about self-awareness and evolution and I’ve taken every workshop and read every book there is about love and relationships. I have a lot of friends and a career I like. But everywhere I look I find rude men who have done no inner work. I’m frustrated that, after so much looking, I still can’t find the one for me. I feel left out of an important part of life and now, I feel there is little hope of finding anyone to share my life with. I’m afraid of being alone forever. What should I do?
~ Christie

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“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”

Christie, I congratulate you for pursuing a path of personal and spiritual growth. I feel your passion regarding self-awareness and your evolutionary journey.

It does seem like a paradox: you work diligently on “self-actualization”, to come to a sense of inner peace and harmony … and then look around to find not many other people have done the same. I read the other day that on average, more women tend to have a heightened relational and emotional maturity level that serves as an advantageous gateway to higher consciousness. (This doesn’t mean that all men don’t have emotional maturity – I know many who do.) I also read that women also tend to have more synapses linking to Continue reading

Becoming a Warrior in service to your life

Becoming a Warrior in service to your life

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Including your love life
And as evidenced by my clients

I’m always curious about human nature – particularly in what motivates and compels us, why some people choose to accomplish and improve their lives and why others simply don’t. I am enamored of the capability to pursue a dream in the face of fear, curious about why some people succeed and others crumble, and even more interested in why others don’t even lift a finger.

This morning, I was reflecting on my clients and their collective coaching experiences from a bird’s eye view, which is the best perspective to see the collective forest as opposed to each individual tree, so that I could deeply understand what drew them into my coaching processes and to see what their common threads were. What is it about my clients that compelled them to take this journey?

As I was ruminating, I noticed they all possess this urgent, critical, and with some, Continue reading

Positive Mindset Pt. 4: Turn that Frown Upside Down

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Or, Polly Anna has just left the building.

In their book, How We Choose to Be Happy, Rick Foster and Greg Hicks point out that truly happy people deal with their sorrows by choosing to feel their feelings and somehow finding meaning in the situation. In essence, we can use our circumstances Continue reading

Positive Mindset Pt. 3: The False Allure of Relentless Positivity

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 Or, avoid becoming a Stepford Wife

In this post, I want to re-emphasize how important it is to “look on the bright side of life” while at the same time diverging from the popular “adopt a positive attitude” approach that has permeated today’s zeitgeist. As someone who practices Coaching for Transformation, I want to focus on alchemical change – which means that to get to the good stuff, we move through the crappy stuff so you can be FREE. The only way out is through. Continue reading

Develop a Positive Mindset Pt. 2 – the influence of negativity

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Negativity Is a Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

People with a pessimistic or negative worldview take a victim stance, seeing life as a continuous succession of problems and a process of unfairness and oppression. They can’t move forward, don’t expect a lot and don’t get much. When things go wrong, they shrug their shoulders and passively accept that this is the way life is and there isn’t anything they can do to make it better. Does any of that sound familiar to you? This is the land of “victim-hood”. Continue reading

Developing an Authentic Positive Mindset

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Or, No One Wants to Date a Whiner

I’ve noticed something lately. In my webinars, I often talk about being responsible for one’s outcomes – being the Architect of one’s life – and not being the Victim, someone who consistently focuses on what other people are doing or outside events and then blames them for his or her woes. The key to empowerment is to own your sh*t. Continue reading

Kick Your Life into High Gear

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Four transformative “things to do” so you can have better relationships, more money, a successful career.

As a culture, we’re hooked into the fallacy of getting instant results. This applies to every aspect of our lives – from our careers, to our health, to dating and relationships. We’re always looking for the formula to success: put the quarter into the slot, and Continue reading

Dating and Relationships Are Not Four-Letter Words

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The alchemy and spirituality of love and relationships as part of the Hero’s Journey

My closest friends laughed with incredulity and disbelief when I first told them I was approached by a woman I know, who runs a number of social communities, to help her single and looking tribe learn how to date smarter and become more satisfied with Continue reading

Dating Gold Digging Women? What it says about your values (part 2)

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In my last post, I started to address a rich question (in truth: a complaint) that I received via my “Ask the Coach” program. This particular entry was so rich that I wanted to break it down – my first response addressed the issue of honoring our time, since spending 7 months with someone who doesn’t reflect one of our core values is … well … kind of a waste of time.  Here’s the question/complaint again, to refresh our memories: Continue reading

Are You Dating Brainlessly?

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How to Avoid the Zombie Effect.

Are you Unconsciously Incompetent in Dating and Relationships? I talk about this a lot in my webinars on dating and relationships because, unlike other areas of our lives such as our careers or our health, most of us have not taken any time to educate ourselves on how to have a successful dating life (and ultimately happy relationships). Continue reading