Your Epic Life: How to become your dreams

Your Epic Life: How to become your dreams

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The one thing that I see many people do is create goals for themselves and then store all of that in their heads. They may state their goals out loud but don’t go as far as writing them down. So what happens? Time slips by. Day after day goes by without them making a conscious effort to work toward them until 6 months elapse and they still haven’t achieved what they wanted to achieve.

Conversely I also see people overcommit (as we discussed in Steps 1 and 2). The problem with overcommitting is that it leads to under-delivering. Everything we do takes up physical time in our lives. Without putting things on the calendar, it’s easy to plan way too much. Too much that leads to overwhelm which leads to the opposite of progress.

Step 8

Put in on your calendar

Take a look at the goals and the habits that you’ve committed to over the past few steps. Begin to place each into various months. While doing so, be conscious of your life. For example, if you know you’ll be traveling all of June, then don’t expect huge results that month. If some of your goals will take the whole year to complete, then fill in your minor tasks in the months where you will take the action.

Goals, habits and outcomes by month

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Step 9

Create accountability structures

We tend to keep our word much better with others than with ourselves. Pick at least four people close to you to tell about your goals. They become your accountability allies. Walk them through this process. Explain why it’s so incredibly important to you and even give them a copy of your goals and plans. Ask for their help. If you have been reading my blog for any length of time, you know how important it is to have a support network. Most singles do not have enough people in their lives to lean on, thinking that their romantic relationship needs to meet all of their social needs. This is an excellent opportunity for you to practice leaning on friends and family members.

Accountability ally:                                                                                                                             
How they will keep you accountable (ex.: weekly check ups, whip cracking, etc.):              

Step 10

Routinely review your progress

To see massive progress, you must keep your plans front of mind. Create a routine that allows you to review the above at least on a weekly basis. Anything more in frequent than weekly makes it too easy to keep the ideas and dreams just that – ideas and dreams. They only become reality when we consistently address them and make small, gradual progress. In one year, that can become enormous.

Write down when you will review your goals on a routine basis.

Day of week:                                                                                                                                                  
Time of day:                                                                                                                                                   

Next, do something now – no matter how small.

Never leave a planning session without taking some action to get you closer to victory. It could be the tiniest thing in the world. Maybe send a short email or make a quick list. Pick something that only takes 5 minutes or less. And then do it. Let the momentum build.

Pick 1 small task for your top few goals that you can do right now to get you closer.

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You can become your dreams — just add consistency

Congratulations! The fact that you have finished this process means you are nearly guaranteed to experience your dreams. As long as you do one thing… work!

Dreams, aspirations, andgoals don’t become reality merely by dreaming. That is the very first and simplest step. The magic happens when a consistent process of dedicated and inspired action is applied to the things that matter most in your life. Make no mistake – massive hard work is required.

When you are committed on such a level, the sky is literally the limit. That is what turns the impossible into the possible and is what makes the difference between an epic life and an ordinary one.

Every life can be epic in its own way.

All we have to do is want it badly enough. That part is up to you. So here’s to a year of life on your terms. I’ll see you out there!

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Is one of your goals to create or improve your ideal career, or to create a strong support network, or to find the love of your life? I think I can help.

It turns out that 80% of singles over 40 don’t enjoy their lives. You’re not alone – and yet it doesn’t have to be that way. The good news is that last July, I created a self-study course called Create a Life You Love to help with those exact goals.   It contains six easy to follow modules with exercises to complete to ensure your success and there are also workbooks, 2 complimentary coaching sessions and weekly action plans that comes with it.

Since it’s the new year in this topic mean so much to me, I’m offering a 20% off discount code for the first two weeks of February for those who have completed this blog post series. To get your discount code, simply email me your notes from this process. But remember it’s only good until February 14th, 2016.

Here’s to a new year of finding passion and creating an epic life!

Click here to learn all about the Create a Life You Love eCourse.

 

Your Epic Life:  What’s your WHY?

Your Epic Life:  What’s your WHY?

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In this post, we’re going to explore how to give yourself leverage in terms of achieving your dreams – meaning, finding a compelling and emotional reason why you want to do what you want to do. When I coach my clients, one of the first few questions I ask them, when they state what they want to achieve, is “What’s important to you about that? What do you care about here?” Knowing your why can often mean the difference between achieving the goal or not, since a compelling and powerful why usually springs from a very deep need and is often influenced by our values.

This kind of emotional leverage can come from one of two places. You can focus on the wonderful things you’ll experience if you complete your goal – i.e., happiness, personal freedom, finding love. Or you can focus on the awful things that might happen if you don’t – i.e., loneliness, a heart attack, or the death of a loved one. Positive or negative, discover what will make it an absolute must to accomplish your goal. One success guru I follow likens leverage with the father who couldn’t quit smoking until his 6 year old daughter walked into his home office one morning and said daddy, “I don’t want you to die before I’m 10.” He never smoked again. Now that’s emotional leverage.

Need to catch up? Please check out the following blog posts, in order:
Make Your New Year Epic
Create Better Habits
Think Big and Get Specific

Step 6

What massive reason can you find for making your goal and must? It could be fitting into your wedding dress or being sure you’re alive to teach your grandson math. It’s your call. Just be sure there is a need your emotional reason behind it.

List one why for each goal.

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Step 7

Creating baby steps

Thinking of a long term goal as a single item to accomplish can be massively overwhelming. Yet every goal has all kinds of 5 minutes or 1 hour task leading up to it.

In this step, we’re going to take each core goal and divided into 3 to 5 minor steps. This is called chunking down. Chunking is a way of breaking down larger goals into more realistically achievable steps. The process helps you to understand all the smaller tasks that are involved in achieving a bigger aim, and create a timeline to get them done. By creating a series of realistic mini goals along the way, you can also feel a constant and building sense of achievement, spurring you on to work even harder.

From there we will create 3 to 5 baby steps for each minor step. You may need more or fewer steps, depending on the size of your goal. Feel it out.

 

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So… how excited are you getting, now that you’ve come this far to clearly and definitively articulate what you want to achieve, why it’s important to you, and then to start breaking it all down into small steps? We are nearly done with this exercise … so stay tuned for Steps 8, 9 and 10.

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Your Epic Life: How to think big and get specific

Your Epic Life: How to think big and get specific

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Before we move on to Steps 4 and 5, let’s look back at the areas of attention you defined in Step 2 because you will need them here. Remember that it’s easier to focus on less than 8 areas. By being judicious, you’ll prevent burnout and a sense of overwhelm.

Now it’s time to start thinking big. I don’t mean you have to think massively, although that certainly makes this process a little bit more fun. The work we’re doing in Steps 4 and 5 primarily has to be meaningful to you.

It’s also not necessary to pick something for every single category or area of attention, yet I encourage you to do so. I want to make sure that you are creating joy in all the areas of your life that matter.

Always remember, however, that balance is key.

List one to three goals per area of attention.

Area 1:                                      Goals:

Area 2:                                      Goals:                                                                                                            

Area 3:                                      Goals:                                                                                                            

Area 4:                                      Goals:                                                                                                            

Area 5:                                      Goals:                                                                                                            

Area 6:                                      Goals:                                                                                                            

Area 7:                                      Goals:                                                                                                            

Area 8:                                      Goals:                                                                                                            

 

Step 5 – Getting Specific

This is where we’re going to define what you really want for yourself. It’s not enough to say, I want to be healthier, or I want to find someone special, or I want to make more money. You need to create goals that are quantifiable and measurable. And you need to be in control of whether they happen – meaning they need to be attainable. You can’t control whether you find the love of your life yet you can control how often you get off your couch to participate in life and how often you practice better communication skills. You can’t control whether you actually lose 10 pounds yet you can control what you eat and how often you exercise, which is what really leads to losing the weight.

So take a moment now to define what you want exactly. If you want to write a book, for example, then how many words a day can you commit to?

List the quantifiable outcomes and the specifics of each goal below.

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So that is it for today. You’ve built a great foundation to creating an epic new year. Come back in a few days for Steps Six and Seven through which you’re going to create compelling reasons why you want to achieve these goals and then you’re going to create baby steps toward achieving them. Meanwhile, have an amazing day!

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Your Epic Life: how to create better habits

Your Epic Life: how to create better habits

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Welcome back! Hopefully by now you’ve had some time to write answers to the questions in this blog post (here). Today, in Step 2, we are going to define your areas of attention. This is where you’re going to list the core areas of your life where you want to get results. Examples of core areas include: your health, continued learning, helping others, marriage or relationships, career, finances. The more creative you get with your naming in this area, the more committed you will be. For example, you could use the phrase “Expand the mind” instead of continue learning. Anything goes.

If you have any trouble identifying these areas, refer back to your answers in Step One.

Helpful Hint:  Don’t list any more than eight. In truth, it’s even better if you identify fewer than that. The point here is to know the areas in your life that matter the most and have fun with them.

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Step 3

Define resolutions and habits

Before we start thinking through massive goals, it is a good idea to start with general themes of improvement or change that you want to work on. Regard them as habits or resolutions. Habits differ from goals in the sense that goals are things you eventually accomplish or check off your list. Habits are things you want to adopt as a part of your life going forward. They are actions or behavior patterns that are regular, repetitive and unconscious – they are so ingrained that they are automatic. Some examples of habits include being early, scheduling less, slowing down, spending less time on email, simplifying or decluttering, getting more sleep, eating more healthfully.

The thing is, fully 95% of everything we do or say is determined by our habits, whether good or bad. Successful people have good habits that lead them to engage in constructive, fruitful behaviors throughout their lives. Unsuccessful people have inadvertently developed bad habits that cause them to act, or fail to act, in ways that lead to disappointment and frustration. Now we’re not just talking about career or financial success here – this applies to all areas of your life, including your health, friendships, and romantic relationships.

The thought of changing habits can be daunting for many, yet there is a really effective and simple approach to changing habits that I’ve adopted — it’s best to focus on one new habit or resolution at a time. Ideally you should focus on no more than one a month. If we do that one thing for a month straight, it will likely become a part of our routine. The good news is that for the super ambitious, this still allows for 12 new habits a year! However, I’d recommend fewer.

If you’d like to learn how to create better habits in 21 days or less, log on to my website
and order my free ebook called 21 days to Love, Joy and Prosperity.

So go ahead and list up to 12 habits you’d like to focus on for the New Year.

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So those are Steps 2 & 3! Tune back in in a few days for Steps 4 & 5. You are on the verge of creating core goals in each area that you’d like to improve in your life, as well as getting specific in defining what it is that you really want.

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7 tips to find happiness after loss or separation

7 tips to find happiness after loss or separation

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The other day I gave a presentation to about 20 singles over the age of 50 and, coincidentally or not, a fair number of them had lost their beloveds and were now trying to move forward and create a new chapter for themselves.

It got me to think about a large majority of my Empowered Singles community since a huge percentage have suffered a relationship loss … whether through widowhood or divorce or a breakup of a long-term “common law” relationship.

It also got me to thinking about how quickly some of these people jump back into wanting to date.

Losing a significant relationship in life is never easy, especially after you and your former partner walked side by side together for a length of time. The loss of a close relationship can feel like emotional amputation. You may feel sad and alone, as if you’re missing an important part of yourself. If you were on the receiving end of a break up, you may feel angry, rejected or betrayed.

The good news is that the sadness doesn’t last forever. However, it’s important to approach the process of “getting back out there again” in an intelligent, healthy way. As I’ve said before, those who have suffered a loss may be feeling badly about themselves or may feel afraid that they’re going to wind up alone and then rush in blindly and desperately.

When we’re in the middle of so much pain, it may be hard to get clear bearings about our experiences. In 1969, psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross introduced what became known as the “five stages of grief.” To learn more about this process, I encourage you to visit her foundation’s web site:  HERE 

For now, however, to make the process smoother, and to give yourself the best chance of being happy, here are seven tips to healing and finding happiness again:

  1. Let Yourself Grieve

Grief is a natural response to loss. It’s the emotional suffering you feel when something or someone you love is taken away. The more significant the loss, the more intense the grief will be. It’s also a personal and highly individual experience. How you grieve depends on many factors, including your personality and coping style, your life experience, your faith, and the nature of the loss

When we feel pain from a loss, allowing ourselves time to grieve is one of the most important steps in the healing process. The grieving process takes time. Healing happens gradually; it can’t be forced or hurried—and there is no “normal” timetable for grieving. Some people start to feel better in weeks or months. For others, the grieving process is measured in years. Whatever your grief experience, it’s important to be patient with yourself and allow the process to naturally unfold.

Find healthy outlets where you can safely express your emotions. Talk with supportive friends, write in a journal, see a counselor, or pray to your maker. Acknowledge the pain and hurt. Allow yourself to feel your emotions. Those who don’t allow themselves to grieve carry repressed pain which will inevitably affect future relationships. When you let yourself grieve, you give yourself the gift of compassion.

  1. Care for Yourself

It’s easy to feel sorry for oneself after a relationship loss, and in doing so neglect one’s own wellbeing. Some people self-blame, while some blame others and view themselves as the victim. There may be an urge to mope endlessly and wallow negatively. Some punish themselves consciously or unconsciously.

The more difficult the separation, the more important it is to take good care of yourself. This is the time to face your feelings and not suppress them. By acknowledging the pain, you allow yourself to resolve the pain. Unresolved grief can lead to symptoms such as depression, anxiety, substance abuse and health problems. If you don’t relish the thought of wallowing, express your feelings in creative ways, such as writing in a journal.

Remember to be your own advocate. Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel … and don’t tell yourself what you should be feeling either. Let yourself feel whatever you feel without embarrassment or judgment. It’s okay to be angry, to cry or not to cry. It’s also okay to laugh, to find joy, and to let go when you’re ready.

  1. Plan Ahead for Grief “Triggers”

Anniversaries, birthdays, holidays, and milestones can revive memories and feelings. Be prepared for an emotional blow, and know that it’s completely normal. If you’re sharing a holiday or life event with other people, talk with them ahead of time about their expectations and agree on ways you can honor where you are at the moment. You may be tempted to isolate yourself at these times – if you do, make sure you’re not doing so because you’re wallowing. Which leads us to…

  1. Lean on Your Healthy Support Network

The single most important factor in healing from loss is having the support of other people. Even if you aren’t comfortable talking about your feelings under normal circumstances, it’s important to express them when you’re grieving. Sharing your loss makes the burden of grief easier to carry. Wherever the support comes from, accept it and do not grieve alone. Connecting to others will help you heal.

Try not to think that you’re imposing on other people … and try not to feel ashamed about asking for help. No person is an island — more than likely, your loved ones would love to help yet probably aren’t sure how to. Express your needs – I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised.

When interacting with your support system, you may be tempted to over-analyze and obsess over your loss. While processing is important and healthy, be mindful if you find yourself endlessly revisiting the past and rehashing wounds.

“Normal people have problems. The smart ones get help.”
― Daniel Amen

  1. Be Physical

There’s a saying that I really like: “motion dictates emotion.” How we use our body affects greatly how we feel. The easiest way to feel lousy about yourself is to keep your head down, slouching like a couch potato, and wallow in misery. Conversely, studies show that healthy and enjoyable physical activities can energize your body, lift your emotions, and enliven your spirit.

  1. Allow for Peaceful Alone-time

As hard as this may seem, given our supreme fear of loneliness, allow yourself time for what my teachers call serene solitude, and learn to be comfortable with your own company. Engage in enjoyable, solitary activities that let you to feel peace and strength on your own. Get to know yourself again. This is a vital step if you’re interested in forming healthy relationships in the future.

  1. Volunteer

When you’re ready, reach out and help others in greater need than you. Volunteer at a soup kitchen, visit an elderly home, or engage in other types of meaningful work or community service. Working with others who are in greater need than you will help put life into perspective. You’ll realize how fortunate you are. Plus you’ll be contributing to the world in a meaningful way, which will boost your self-esteem.

Whatever you do, please take your time.

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If you honor these seven tips, you’ll find that soon enough you’ll be in good shape physically, mentally and emotionally. You’ll be in a much better position to get out into the world as an Empowered Single, loving your life and ready to co-create an extraordinary relationship.

If you feel that you need some support to help you navigate the waters, to become successfully single and then relationship ready, please set up an appointment with me, so we can discuss how I can best support you. Email me HERE.

Desperately fear being single? Read this

Desperately fear being single? Read this

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Zombie Single symptoms medically explained

I use the phrase “Zombie Single” tongue in cheek as a humorous way to refer to those singles who are blindly obsessed with finding a partnership.

A zombie single is characterized by feelings of desperation and crushing loneliness while at the same time doing the same things, expecting different results – without any thought or reflection upon their actions and their consequences.

Afraid of being alone, they attend every generic singles event that they can find on Meet Up yet still aren’t getting any closer to living a life they love.

They don’t have a close network to rely on, they’ve done no inner work to resolve sabotaging beliefs and behaviors.

They are unconsciously motivated by a deep fear of being single, unaware of what’s driving them.

While I use the phrase in jest, I gotta love science. Turns out there is an actual phobia to describe what zombie singles suffer from:

Anuptaphobia (check it out)

fear zombiesMedically defined as “a morbid fear of staying or remaining single,” Anuptaphobia is not your average phobia, and judging by some of the conversations I have with people, it’s safe to say we’re living through an epidemic.

An entire generation has succumbed to Anuptaphobia and the symptoms have been running rampant throughout the U.S. Even the most accomplished and intelligent single women and men have been falling this recently named phobia. Even the strong aren’t safe.

All kidding aside, the Fear of Being Single is actually a psychological condition brought on by numerous factors, including traumas that we’ve experienced in our past. Yet I think it’s safe to say we’ve tainted our own water.

Over time, we’ve created a culture that doesn’t support relationships, yet we still hold romantic, Hollywood-ified expectations of love. We’ve swallowed the You Complete Me pill to the point where we can’t feel whole without another person, while also not knowing how to be together. Capable and smart singles are walking around as empty shells, feeling worthless and defeated.

The worst part about Anuptaphobia is that people waste their lives letting it control them. They live lives of quiet desperation, suffering under its influence, refusing to believe they can have happy lives independent of being in a relationship.

They can’t see that they can be happy as an individual, that marriage isn’t the panacea they hope it will be. They’re hindered by the fear that they’ll be isolated and alone and depressed.

Then, they wind up manifesting the very thing they fear the most.

You, too, may be suffering from this disease – but before you can treat yourself, you must first properly diagnose yourself.

Here’s how you can tell if you’re suffering from Anuptaphobia:

You habitually stay in relationships that don’t work

You have a tendency to try and push square pegs into round holes. You end up with partners not because they’re right, but because they’re there. You settle for relationships and people because you’d rather settle now than strive for something great later. You are so deathly terrified of being on your own that you’ll stay with someone you don’t even like.

You obsessively think about marriage & love

Your mind is constantly preoccupied with romantic notions of “the perfect life” and “happily ever after” that you can’t see how good your real life is right now. You obsess over things beyond your control, creating delusions and fantasies of a life even Hollywood can’t properly achieve. You forget to look around you and enjoy the moment because you’re constantly obsessing over how lonely you feel.

You feel inadequate

You feel painfully incomplete. You feel as if you’re walking around with a gaping wound, the other half of you missing. You are not completely present when people talk to you because you feel you have nothing good to offer. You think that because you are single, you are worthless. Because you are alone, you have nothing to offer. Yet what you don’t realize is your inadequacy is all in your head.

You are unable to spend time alone

You get worked up and anxious when you are by yourself for too long. You never understood the idea of enjoying your own company and would rather eat glass before living in an apartment or home by yourself. You fill all of your free time with things to do, especially with friends you don’t even like that much. You don’t even want to get used to your own company.

You over-analyze everything

When dating, you obsess over how the other person thinks or acts, trying to figure out what the person is doing. Enough said.

… If you’ve discovered that you might be afraid of being single, there are plenty of things you can do to help you relax. My next blog post will spell out some simple solutions.

But in the meantime, through my Become Successfully Single & Relationship Ready home study coaching program, you’ll learn what’s behind your fear and your feelings of emptiness and dissatisfaction.

More importantly, you’ll learn how to overcome the lack of self-love due to past trauma, parental dysfunction or just typical childhood experiences that lead many of us to believe we’re not worthy of love.

You’ll learn new ways you can let go of what’s blocking you from feeling in complete acceptance of yourself. I’ll share strategies of how to move through the dark feelings of loneliness and rejection that stem from feeling afraid of being single.

You’ll learn the proven techniques that hundreds of singles have used in the last several decades that have led them to more personal fulfillment, inner peace and higher self-esteem.

When you follow my program, you’ll knock fear out of your life by making the kinds of shifts that will empower you, fill you with confidence, and make you incredibly attractive to the partner you’re looking for.

Fear can keep you trapped and loveless. It can cause you to repeat the very same patterns that are preventing you from finding the love you deserve. I know my programs can show you a new way – the fearless path to lasting love.

To learn more, click here.

How to develop self-empowerment

How to develop self-empowerment

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Self-empowerment for happier relationships

Empowered CoupleYou may not realize this but your relationships are a reflection of your true personality and character. They correspond to your inner attitudes, beliefs and feelings about yourself. Relationships don’t necessarily reflect the person you want to be or pretend to be – they reflect back to you the person you really are at this moment. The people you choose to spend time with are a reflection of the person you really are inside.

So to co-create happy, healthy partnerships as well as lead a kick-a$$ life, you will need to take steps to become empowered, which we’ve previously defined as the process of becoming powerful.

Here are some starting points to think about, gleaned from the work of Abraham Maslow, a famed American psychologist who specialized in self-actualization. Self-actualization is defined as “the desire for self-fulfillment, namely the tendency for [the individual] to become actualized in what he is potentially.”

Experience life fully and vividly. The process of empowerment begins when we start to become completely immersed in our experiences – living fully, vividly and selflessly.

Be honest in your choices. Life is a series of choices. If you’re truthful with yourself as you make your choices, then you’re on the way to being empowered.

Be aware of your uniqueness. Realize that you are unique and begin to learn how to express yourself and your feelempowered super manings truthfully, rather than reflect what you believe others want you to do or say.

Act with integrity. You always have a choice in whatever situation you face so act in a way that is honest and true to your nature. As you take responsibility for your own actions, you will move toward empowerment.

Be courageous. Learn to expand your horizons and let go of the familiar. Learn to not be deterred by fear and adversity. Learn to follow your heart and stand up for what is right. Learn to face adversity with dignity.

Focus on continual self-development. Self-empowerment is not an end-state, rather it is a process.

Let go of your ego defenses. Learning to let go of troublesome defense mechanisms that you may use to protect yourself is a necessary part of this process. For example, if you have a tendency to blame your partner for your frustrations or to become angry when things don’t go your way, learn to react in a constructive manner.

Develop trust. This can be a difficult and lengthy process but without it, empowerment and happiness is not possible.  To develop trust, aim to:

  • Be Open:  In the sharing of information, ideas and thoughts.  When appropriate also share emotions, feelings and reactions.
  • Share and Co-operate:  Share resources and knowledge with others to help them to achieve their goals.
  • Be Trustworthy:  When other people place their trust in you, do your best to provide positive outcomes.
  • Be Accepting:  Hold the values and views of others in high regard.
  • Be Supportive:  Support others when necessary while also recognizing their strengths.

Learn to understand your strengths and limits. Identifying these will enable you to build on your strengths. If you face problems that are truly beyond your capabilities, seek help.  Empowered people know their own limits and have no problems with asking for help or guidance.

Develop confidence. Confidence acts as one of the greatest motivators or most powerful limitations to anyone trying to change their behavior and become more empowered.  Most people only undertake tasks that they feel capable of doing and it takes great effort to overcome a lack of confidence.  Self-empowerment involves people constantly challenging their own beliefs and what they are capable of undertaking.

 

… I know all of this sounds simple at first glance yet the real magic exists in the HOW to get there, which is what my coaching programs give you. What’s more, as you move forward toward self-fulfillment via my coaching programs, you’ll learn how to self-manage and course correct when faced with challenges that threaten to derail you.

To learn more about how you can liberate yourself and become an Empowered Single, please email me to schedule a no-cost 45 minute breakthrough session.  (If you qualify).  Email me by clicking HERE.

Time to co-create: Your feedback needed

Time to co-create: Your feedback needed

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Let’s Co-Create the Extraordinary

I have a question for you and would really, really, really appreciate your thoughts and feedback since you’re a group who want to create more for yourselves in your lives and move to a higher level of joy and fulfillment.
feedback couple on computersI was recently approached by an online learning social network to develop an online class in my area of expertise. (As an FYI, as a life coach, I host programs and events to help single people over the age of 35 create a life they love by getting clear vision and direction, strategizing actions, upgrading skills, optimizing their environment, and mastering their psychology.)
If you were to take an online class in this arena, what specifically would you want to achieve? Or put another way, what is most important to you right now that you would love to achieve – goals, dreams, aspirations? Is it learning how to date & relate better? Creating a better support community & friendships? Doing well in your career? Earning more money? Becoming more confident, self-actualized and realize your full potential? Getting rid of sabotaging, limiting beliefs, attitudes and behaviors? All of the above? What would entice you to enroll? 🙂
Comment below or feel free to email me at:  linda @ aurorsana.com …

While we’re at it…more feedback needed

I also developed a quick survey for those of you who live in New Jersey and would like to create a stronger support network. One of my goals is to create a community in real time, in real life (not virtual), where we can come together repeatedly, rely on each other, give support while receiving support. If you have 5 minutes to spare, I sure would love your opinions on that as well. Here is the link to the survey:  HERE 
If you could share your thoughts, I’d be very grateful!
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Let’s Bust the Valentine’s Day Blues

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Back in the day when I was a relationship train-wreck, before I started to get my sh*t together about my self-esteem and intimacy issues, I used to despise Valentine’s Day, and all its reminders about romance and being in love and all those ads where pretty gals were surprised and delighted to be presented beautiful diamond engagement rings by handsome dudes. I used to hang black crepe paper ribbons in my work cubicle, wear all black, and regard the day as a day of mourning. I used to range emotionally from seething to despair around this time of year. I know I am (was) not alone – I talk to many singles now who regard Valentine’s Day as an unwelcome reminder of their “alone-ness” and longing for a loving connection. Continue reading