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The one thing that I see many people do is create goals for themselves and then store all of that in their heads. They may state their goals out loud but don’t go as far as writing them down. So what happens? Time slips by. Day after day goes by without them making a conscious effort to work toward them until 6 months elapse and they still haven’t achieved what they wanted to achieve.
Conversely I also see people overcommit (as we discussed in Steps 1 and 2). The problem with overcommitting is that it leads to under-delivering. Everything we do takes up physical time in our lives. Without putting things on the calendar, it’s easy to plan way too much. Too much that leads to overwhelm which leads to the opposite of progress.
Put in on your calendar
Take a look at the goals and the habits that you’ve committed to over the past few steps. Begin to place each into various months. While doing so, be conscious of your life. For example, if you know you’ll be traveling all of June, then don’t expect huge results that month. If some of your goals will take the whole year to complete, then fill in your minor tasks in the months where you will take the action.
Goals, habits and outcomes by month
Create accountability structures
We tend to keep our word much better with others than with ourselves. Pick at least four people close to you to tell about your goals. They become your accountability allies. Walk them through this process. Explain why it’s so incredibly important to you and even give them a copy of your goals and plans. Ask for their help. If you have been reading my blog for any length of time, you know how important it is to have a support network. Most singles do not have enough people in their lives to lean on, thinking that their romantic relationship needs to meet all of their social needs. This is an excellent opportunity for you to practice leaning on friends and family members.
How they will keep you accountable (ex.: weekly check ups, whip cracking, etc.):
Routinely review your progress
To see massive progress, you must keep your plans front of mind. Create a routine that allows you to review the above at least on a weekly basis. Anything more in frequent than weekly makes it too easy to keep the ideas and dreams just that – ideas and dreams. They only become reality when we consistently address them and make small, gradual progress. In one year, that can become enormous.
Write down when you will review your goals on a routine basis.
Day of week:
Time of day:
Next, do something now – no matter how small.
Never leave a planning session without taking some action to get you closer to victory. It could be the tiniest thing in the world. Maybe send a short email or make a quick list. Pick something that only takes 5 minutes or less. And then do it. Let the momentum build.
Pick 1 small task for your top few goals that you can do right now to get you closer.
You can become your dreams — just add consistency
Congratulations! The fact that you have finished this process means you are nearly guaranteed to experience your dreams. As long as you do one thing… work!
Dreams, aspirations, andgoals don’t become reality merely by dreaming. That is the very first and simplest step. The magic happens when a consistent process of dedicated and inspired action is applied to the things that matter most in your life. Make no mistake – massive hard work is required.
When you are committed on such a level, the sky is literally the limit. That is what turns the impossible into the possible and is what makes the difference between an epic life and an ordinary one.
Every life can be epic in its own way.
All we have to do is want it badly enough. That part is up to you. So here’s to a year of life on your terms. I’ll see you out there!
Is one of your goals to create or improve your ideal career, or to create a strong support network, or to find the love of your life? I think I can help.
It turns out that 80% of singles over 40 don’t enjoy their lives. You’re not alone – and yet it doesn’t have to be that way. The good news is that last July, I created a self-study course called Create a Life You Love to help with those exact goals. It contains six easy to follow modules with exercises to complete to ensure your success and there are also workbooks, 2 complimentary coaching sessions and weekly action plans that comes with it.
Since it’s the new year in this topic mean so much to me, I’m offering a 20% off discount code for the first two weeks of February for those who have completed this blog post series. To get your discount code, simply email me your notes from this process. But remember it’s only good until February 14th, 2016.
Here’s to a new year of finding passion and creating an epic life!