Ask the Coach: Isn’t Relationship Coaching Nothing More Than Snake Oil?

Ask the Coach: Isn’t Relationship Coaching Nothing More Than Snake Oil?

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Dear Coach Linda:
Forgive me for being blunt, but what do you think you’re doing here on Meet Up.com, promoting yourself as a relationship coach? You are nothing more than a snake oil salesman, out to make a buck. – Jim

Hi Jim,
I’m curious about how vehemently you are opposed to relationship coaching – I assume stems from your concern about people being taken advantage of, especially those who have recently gone through a divorce and may be feeling vulnerable, hurt, and lonely. If this is true, then I appreciate your desire to protect people from vultures.

But I whole-heartedly disagree with you about relationship coaching being nothing more than snake oil. Here’s why. Continue reading

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By the fact that you’re reading this blog post, you’re indicating your interest in experiencing an extraordinary life and an extraordinary relationship — where you are fully engaged in the things that are important to you, where you are completely empowered, are living your life vision and are experiencing extraordinary relationships.

Loving your life and attracting the love of your life all starts with becoming Successfully Single and Relationship Ready – and I’d like to help you do that.

For a limited time, I’m offering a special “Attract an Extraordinary Relationship Now” consultation for ZERO COST. During this exclusive private coaching session we’ll work together to: Continue reading

Ask the Coach: What’s the magic formula for true love?

Ask the Coach: What’s the magic formula for true love?

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Dear Coach Linda: I am so so soooo tired of being single. I went through a bitter divorce about 10 years ago and just cannot find someone I want to be with. Can you please tell me – what is the formula for making the magic happen?
Sincerely,
Mary A.

Hi Mary: I hear your longing to share your life with an extraordinary partner and I applaud your ability to make your goal clear. Without clarity of intention, there is only aimlessness. But I’m also noticing your statement about how tired you are – Continue reading

Ask The Coach pt 3: How to be approachable

Ask The Coach pt 3: How to be approachable

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What’s a single woman to do?

You want to remain open and be approachable yet you can’t help but put walls up.

I had a client, I’ll dub Mary out of respect for privacy, reach out to me to ask that question. “I want to be in a relationship, but every time a guy talks to me, no matter what he says, I get defensive.”

Man, can I relate. I remember there was a period where I wanted to fling daggers at any guy who tried to “chat me up”. Not exactly the right kind of attitude for me to adopt, given the fact that I wanted to find a romantic partner.

With this in mind, we set about coaching her through this feeling. After exploring with her for a while, it became apparent that she had trouble trusting, and was Continue reading

Ask the Coach Pt 2: Why are women so hard to approach?

Ask the Coach Pt 2: Why are women so hard to approach?

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 Safety First.

In my attempts to avoid being a dragon lady, I’ve been trying to see things from a good guy’s perspective – and I have to use that adjective since most women I talk to feel there is a big distinction between a genuine guy and a creepy guy and I have to agree.

As a result, I am empathetic for these men who simply want to chat with women, who kinda don’t really know how to break the ice, and who get met with disdain.  Continue reading

Why Can’t You Be Nicer?

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It’s time for …  Ask the Coach.


Oh, thank you – you’re too kind – please, no applause, just throw money.

I received an email the other day that essentially asked: “Why can’t women be more approachable? And can you create programs that teach them how to be?” I then Continue reading

Dating Gold Digging Women? What it says about your values (part 2)

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In my last post, I started to address a rich question (in truth: a complaint) that I received via my “Ask the Coach” program. This particular entry was so rich that I wanted to break it down – my first response addressed the issue of honoring our time, since spending 7 months with someone who doesn’t reflect one of our core values is … well … kind of a waste of time.  Here’s the question/complaint again, to refresh our memories: Continue reading

Dating Gold Diggers: the hidden cost

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…or, Regrets: The heavy cost of the time we waste

I opened my doors up to an Ask the Coach program, and have had a few questions float into my Inbox, 99% of which focus on ‘why can’t the members of the opposite sex do XYZ’. I will go through each one and address what really pops out at me, but I thought I would start with this non-question question that actually is a complaint (which came to me anonymously and has been slightly edited for grammar and brevity).

I've been a miner for a heart of gold.

I’ve been a miner for a heart of gold.

I love complaints – they have hidden treasures and gifts, like a buried pirate chest filled with gold coins (which can only be seen if you aren’t a Dating Zombie). Continue reading